Navigating Friendships in Your 30s: Why Quality Beats Quantity Every Damn Time
Friendship in Your 30s Hits Different (And That’s Not a Bad Thing)
Let’s be real: friendships in your 30s don’t look like the all night parties and constant texting of your 20s. Now it’s more like sending each other memes at 11 PM while you’re both in bed with a weighted blanket and three step skincare routine.
It’s not worse - it’s wiser.
You’re busy, they’re busy. You’ve got bills, maybe babies, possibly a breakdown or two. The truth? You don’t need a massive squad. You need people who get you. The ride-or-die types who will listen to your rant about Karen from accounting again without judgment.
5 Signs It’s Time to Re-Evaluate Your Friendship Circle
Hey, we’re not saying ghost your entire contact list, but let’s check the vibe, shall we?
You leave hangouts feeling drained, not filled.
Energy vampires are real, and we’re too old for that mess.You’re always the one reaching out.
Friendship’s a two-way street, not a one-woman show.They downplay your wins or struggles.
If they can’t clap when you rise or sit with you when you fall, byeee.You’ve outgrown the shared interests that once held you together.
It’s okay to evolve. Growth isn’t personal, it’s inevitable.Your gut just says, “This ain’t it anymore.”
Trust it. She’s smarter than we give her credit for.
How to Nurture the Friendships That Matter (Without Burning Out)
We’re all a little crispy these days (burnout, anyone?), so here’s how to water your relationship garden without needing a full blown friendship retreat in Bali.
💬 Check in, even when there’s “nothing new.”
A “thinking of you” text goes a long way. No 10-paragraph update needed.
🥂 Celebrate the tiny stuff.
She got promoted? Send a voice note screaming “YES QUEEN.” She showered two days in a row? Applaud it.
📆 Schedule hangouts like you do your waxing appointments.
Put it in your damn calendar. Adult friendship takes intention, babe.
📸 Keep a shared photo album or memory board.
Because nothing says “we’ve survived some sh*t” like your Vegas 2017 pics.
When Letting Go = Leveling Up
Letting a friendship fizzle (or flat-out end) doesn’t mean you’re cold-hearted. It means you’re making space for relationships that are aligned, respectful, and mutual. That’s not selfish—it’s self-aware AF.
Need a reminder? You are not responsible for shrinking just to keep someone else comfortable.
Sometimes, the most radical act of self-care is recognizing that someone’s chapter in your life has closed - and that’s okay. You’re not “too much,” they were just reading the wrong book.
Affirmations for the Friendship Feels
Here’s your MidZen-approved affirmations for when your heart’s sorting through the friendship feels:
“I deserve connections that light me up, not wear me down.”
“I am allowed to outgrow people, even if I still love them.”
“My circle is small, but it’s fierce, funny, and f*cking loyal.”
Tag Us, Show Off Your Circle, and Grab Your Cards
Got a friendship that’s survived the chaos and still brings the laughs?
Tag us on Instagram @midzen.co in a pic with your ride-or-die besties - we wanna see the squad that makes life’s messes a little more magical.
Feeling inspired (or emotionally wrecked in the best way)?
Shop our affirmation cards to keep the real talk and good vibes flowing - whether it’s for you or your favorite chaos partner. Because owning your chaos is better with company.
Go ahead, celebrate your inner circle. The loyal, the loud, the late-to-everything - they deserve a card and a tag.
